We tend to think conflict means something has gone wrong. If a relationship is healthy, shouldn’t we get along? Shouldn’t things feel peaceful? Shouldn’t we be able to avoid hurting or upsetting each other? I’m not sure that’s the right goal. Disagreement and conflict aren’t necessarily the problem. It’s how we have them. Priya Parker, a conflict facilitator and author of The Art of Gathering, talks about the difference between avoiding conflict, destructive conflict, and wha

Mental and emotional health professionals teach people useful skills all the time. Mindfulness. Grounding. Emotion regulation. Distress tolerance. Exposure. Different ways of responding to old patterns. The problem usually isn’t explaining the skill. The problem is helping someone actually use it when they’re overwhelmed, triggered, distracted, or back in their normal life without a therapist sitting next to them. That is the gap the Focus Frame is designed to help with. The